Why do people hate Christians?
People hate Christians. Let’s all admit it.
You see it everywhere. Social media, the news, your neighbours next door, and more often than not, your own relatives. WHY?! To top it all off, most of us know now that sticking up for your religion and fighting back in the comments section is going to leave you in a bloody pile, bruised and battered. Christian advocates are few and the hatred is real.
How do we solve it?
Why are they doing this?
I don’t understand, how can I change their minds?
It will be a long journey ahead my friend.
Personally, I think it was a long time coming. And I don’t blame society for looking at us with such disdainful eyes.
HOW IT ALL BEGAN
Organised religion has taken a brutal beating from highly publicised instances. We’ve got cases of terrorism marring the good name of Muslims, embezzling cases, misuse of Church funds, a giant orange as a “champion” adding to Christianity’s already “stellar” profile, and of course the millions of personal encounters you’ve had with other self-styled Christians.
We could point fingers and say it started with the Crusades – knights going to war in the name of God and killing hundreds and thousands. Back then if news could travel, we’d definitely be the terrorists.
But are things that much different today? We might not go out full-fledged with guns-ablazing (Americans not counted), but we’re nasty in so many ways. Racists, walking about with an almighty air, the occasional snide remark about people with different beliefs, and worst of all, an unwillingness to open your worldview and live in harmony with people of other beliefs.
And with social media being a handy tool, ready for anyone to air their views, it all comes out. Your judgemental views, archaic notions, and hatred are just put live for all to see.
You could argue that those people are few. “Most Christians are not like that.” you say to yourself. But the people who are out in public, they become representatives of our religion. They become our voice. It’s not like politics where you can shut it down with a well-worded press statement. So they flounder there, with no one to police it or to stop it and the people who read it and listen to it are disgusted, ashamed and horrified. “Is this what all Christians think?” The negativity just flows from there and these sentiments once online, are there forever, etched into people’s minds.
Because Christianity is so old and so recognised, there’s an image, or an idea, of how Christians should behave already. This image, by the way, was built up BY Christians. We basically built a tower of expectations so high, we’re all held up to it now. Because of that, people forget that Christians are just human. And to err is human. We make mistakes. These expectations add so much weight to our mistakes that they create a huge impact on the public’s sentiment of us.
Then there’s the biggest problem of all: How Christians see themselves.
1) Christians need to get off their high-horse
The Bible guides us to behave better, to BE better, to be kinder, more generous, but it also tells us that we’re a special people. That gets to some Christians’ heads. Many of us hold ourselves in such high esteem we forget that the world is made up of so many people with so many beliefs. We’re a minority. How do we get off thinking that we’re better than everyone else?
Here there is no Gentile or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and is in all.
We’re not better. We’re JUST LIKE everybody else. Unless you can feed thousands from five loaves and two fishes, you sit back down and remember to be humble and kind.
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.
Christians are the problem because more often than not, we sin – not saying that’s a bad thing, I’m just saying it’s a human thing – but we sin after preaching against the sins of others. Which is even worse. Because now. Now you’re a hypocrite. And it was all your own fault. I’m just saying.
How dare you judge others, how dare you throw the first stone and be harsh to others when you can’t even hold yourself up to your own expectations?
Let me remind you what Jesus said:
Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
You see that happening now right? The judgment that was used against others is now being thrown back in your face on social media.
Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own? How can you say to your brother, “Let me take the speck out of your eye,” when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
Oh Jesus, you badass. You tell them Jesus. You tell them they’re hypocrites.
WE HAVE NO RIGHT TO CAST STONES CAUSE WE’RE JUST AS BAD AS EVERYONE ELSE! WE’RE ALL SINNERS!
We shouldn’t care or stop helping people just because their beliefs are different. We shouldn’t judge them for anything they do. You shouldn’t go all fire and brimstone just cause they’re doing something the Bible said is a sin. The bible said eating pork is unclean but I see you chowing down on bacon and don’t pretend you’ve never told lie.
In God’s eyes, all sins, though of different degree in severity, for example, murder vs telling a lie, are still sins. If not for Jesus coming down to wash away our sins (past, present, and future), we’d all go to hell anyway! But thankfully, sins are all equally forgiven. So aren’t we all on the same platform anyway? Let’s remember Colossians 3:11.
If we want to change people’s perception of Christianity, it all begins with us. We have to be the change.
You know what being a Christian means to me?
You probably don’t care cause who the hell am I, but being a Christian to me means that even though I’m a sinner, I’m loved and I’m forgiven. And as a Christian, my job is not to preach, but it is to DO. Our primary objective as Christians is to show people the same love and forgiveness that we found in God. Leave the preaching to Jesus. That’s what the Bible is for. We’re just here to hold the hands of others and guide them along.
So honestly, I don’t care if you’re gay, I don’t care if you practice a deeply spiritual form of yoga that delves into the spirits of the world, I don’t care if you have some sick fetish eating glue, I don’t care if you’re a feminazi, I don’t care about how you choose to live your life. I’m going to love you anyway, or at least I’m going to try. (hey, I’m a sinner too.)
But if you hate on other people, if you carry about your brand of nasty judgemental self-righteousness, whether you’re a Christian or not, I’m going to put you in your place and remind you God’s the only one who can judge you. We’re all human, we all sin, there’s no one better than anyone else.
Remember, to err is human, to forgive, divine. – Alexander Pope.
Which brings me to my final point:
2) Society needs to start accepting Christians again
They talk about how there are already good people without religion and yes, I agree. But there are also horrible, nasty people without religion. Just as how there are Christian extremists, (think Bible thumpers. Westboro Baptist Church doesn’t count cause I don’t know what God they’re looking for, that’s not my God. tsk. Assholes.) there are non-Christian extremists too.
I’ve said it up there and I’ll say it down here. We’re all the same. We’re all people and we’re all human. We’re just trying to live and we’re trying live with different beliefs.
So if you’ve chosen to believe that there is no such thing as God, that religion is stupid and pointless and we’re all a bunch of sheep following after an unseen entity, then fine. That’s your belief, and I respect that. But maybe respect me too. Let me go about believing whatever I want. The minute you judge me, you’re just as bad as those judgemental Christians you hate.
Speaking of hating Christians.
I understand that many people have had nasty encounters with Christians. You’ve been hurt by someone. By a church. By leaders of a church. You’ve read reports of how church leaders have broken the trust of their congregation and now you hate them all.
Hate the action, hate the leaders, hate the person, but don’t lump them altogether. Don’t let one mistake ruin your perception of everything. Won’t you just be miserable too? You’ll be the troll lurking on every comment board and thread hating and hating and eventually turning you into what you hate – a hypocritical jackass acting in the name of his/her own beliefs.
Our freedom, our individuality allows us to choose how we want to lead our lives, and you need to remember that Christians are all individuals. We’re all sinners, but how we choose to live our lives according to the Bible is different.
Personally, I live by the New Testament. The Old Testament is there as history and as a comparison of how God used to be and how God is now that he sent Jesus down. But that’s a story for another day.
For those hurt by people in the church, you’ve actively been in. I know.
Christians have “lured” you into church, got you down at the altar to accept Jesus Christ into your life and they forgotten about you and now you’re just alone surrounded by hypocrites who are just trying to clock number of souls saved rather than actually loving you.
I get that.
I’ve been there.
I’m sorry. Really sorry.
People just get so caught up in their lives and their goals they forget that they’re responsible for the people they’ve brought to God and for walking beside them till they’ve found their own path.
That’s still no excuse. Perhaps one day you’ll be able to forgive, have a chat with them and open your mind to the possibility of accepting another relationship with God again. You never know what you might find.
But let me help you manage expectations a little: people will always fade away, their kindness and love will disappear one day, but let the foundation of God’s truth, his grace and mercy, light your way. With Him, you’re never alone.
If you disagree with me, want to throw your Bibles at me, go ahead. I’m always up for a healthy debate.
If you’re lonely, you’re upset, you agree/disagree, or you’re curious about this brand of Christianity I’m talking about, or if you just want to chat. Drop me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Like I said, no judgment. 🙂